Three Brains

The brain of each of us is separated into three parts: the lizard brain (reptilian system), monkey brain (limbic system) and human brain (neocortex). It is called Triune Brain Model.

All parts are important, each part is needed for proper functioning. Unfortunately, some people overuse the monkey brain.

Our monkey brain is responsible for social survival. Takes control when your status in the group is at stake. It is extremely emotional, although it gives the appearance of rational thinking. It usually works on a subconscious level. Most human conflicts occur precisely at the monkey brain level.

The human's brain is responsible for rational thinking, solving specific problems strategically, it combines intelligence, experience and wisdom.

The monkey brain, for which humiliation equals death, is ready to do absolutely anything to avoid it. To maintain status within the group of other "monkeys" our inner monkey may be acting against our interests. And instead of focusing on solving the problem, we focus on proving we are right or engage in games to protect our status. Such games of our inner monkeys take many different forms: ranging from mobbing and ending with war. Usually, we are completely subconsciously drawn into monkey games. Rarely do they pursue our interests, they usually protect the well-being of the group by establishing domination or submission, enforcing group norms, etc.

If we get emotional - especially when we feel angry, if the focus shifts from solving the problem to proving that we are right, if we are looking for an excuse to question the other person's words, if we are looking for excuses for the actions or words of the members of the group to which we belong ("we are flexible, and they are dirty liars who do not keep their word"), if we think that we are constantly rational and never succumb to our inner monkey (unlike other people who are ''not as good as we are'') then probably our monkey brain is starting to control us.

There are a few ways to tame the monkey brain.

For example, focus on the task, deal with the problem, not the person, if you are caught playing a monkey game, don't disown it, especially to yourself, learn how to talk about your feelings, emotions (we don't want to kill the monkey, love is a good feeling!), and next time when your human mind recognizes that you have gotten caught up in the inner monkey game just "throw a banana to the other person's monkey so you can talk to the human."

With regards to Lech Dębski.